Leading in the Time of Social Distancing: How to Bring Out the Best in Your Team Amid Strife and Challenges

How to bring out the best in your team amid strife and challenges

To say that these are trying times is perhaps an understatement. The spread of Covid-19 has created a global scenario that’s unprecedented in modern times. In a matter of weeks, we’ve all had to contend with the jarring shift in how individuals communicate and how organisations operate.

Social distancing, community quarantine, and complete lockdowns have now become part of our reality, and that’s on top of rapid digital transformation. Now more than ever, it’s become an imperative to draw deep into our reserves of emotional intelligence to continue growing.

Given the current situation, it’s understandable for managers to get caught up with delivering output and producing results. With their focus constantly fixed on the bottom line, many simply couldn’t appreciate the true significance of their role.

For some, applying their skills to the job and meeting their personal needs seem to be enough—either to gratify their ego or deflect pressure from them. In so doing they miss out on the key measure of their success: the ability to cultivate leadership skills among their team members.

The first step to sustaining high performance in an organisationis engaging your team.
Effective managers are leaders who are capable of developing the self-esteem of their team members and creating other leaders in the process.

Thinking of an instance where managers failed to lead with influence, I’m reminded of the time I was at a major 5-star hotel, waiting behind a buffet dinner carvery for someone to offer me some service.

One individual, who turned out to be the manager, called out to one of the staff loudly, reprimanding them for leaving their station. From the looks of the staff, it was plain to see how embarrassed they were.

In that moment of public humiliation, the staff’s self-confidence must’ve plummeted; and along with it, their trust in the person they saw as their leader. It was natural for the manager to be dismayed at the staff, especially where a customer is concerned.

However, the way they reacted showed a lack of empathy—a wasted opportunity to engage their team. The manager could have popped behind the counter to serve when the staff weren’t around—a good opportunity to teach by example, to lead with influence.

Imagine how that must’ve boosted the team’s morale. Imagine the missed opportunities to learn the root cause of such behavior—the restaurant could’ve been understaffed, perhaps the staff’s training was inadequate, or the policies could use improvement.

I often remind my clients that their customer’s enthusiasm about their business seldom exceeds that of their staff. Serve your staff, treat them like you would your best customers, and great customer service will follow.

The level of your people’s engagement and effectiveness is determined significantly by the level of trust, quality of relationships and their skills to influence, negotiate and manage conflict with stakeholders in the absence of authority.

So, how engaged are the members of your team? Of your myriad roles as a manager, where do coaching, developing, and engaging stand in terms of priorities? In motivating your team to rally behind a shared goal, simple asserting your authority is very seldom effective, if at all.

To create a highly-engaged workforce or project team, you must first understand what motivates your people. Does their motivation come solely from a high salary? A promotion? Better working conditions? Benefits? Fair company policies?

A cross-cultural study conducted by Herzberg (HBR: One More Time: How Do You Motivate Employees, 1987) found that such hygiene factors were important in avoiding staff dissatisfaction but did nothing to create staff satisfaction. What did motivate people were a sense of achievement, recognition, growth, responsibility, advancement, and the work itself.

Dan Pink articulates this powerfully in his talk The Surprising Science of Motivation. He notes that carrot-and-stick incentives (extrinsic) works well for a very narrow band of activities, at best. In most cases, these have a detrimental impact to human performance. Pink lists the true motivators of high performance as Autonomy, Growth and Purpose.

To bring out the best in your team and get the most out of their performance, it’s intrinsic motivators that are the most powerful. Extrinsic factors may succeed in pushing or pulling people into action, but they don’t actually motivate and are not at all sustainable.

True motivation needs to come from within. It goes beyond our need to satisfy our lower-level needs for security or certainty. Genuine motivation it satisfies our higher-order needs: growth, a sense of achievement, and purpose.

To help your team perform at their optimum, Patrick Lencioni—in his book The Three Signs of a Miserable Job—listed three strategies that are equally practical and powerful:

1. Measurement – for your staff to perform at their very best, they need to be able to gauge their progress and contribution for themselves. Imagine playing a game of tennis and not knowing what the score was. People love to compete and win, and are driven by a sense of accomplishment and achievement. Design, communicate, and get an agreement with each staff member as to what meaningful and relevant measures could help all parties determine when they’re succeeding. Such measures need to be something they know they directly have an ability to impact. As a team, regularly review these yardsticks of success to celebrate wins and highlight areas of improvement.

2. Relevance – your staff will give their best when they know that what they’re doing is purposeful; when they feel that what they do makes a difference. Help them understand and emotionalise for themselves the importance of their role and the difference they make—not only on the team’s outcomes but on the people whose livelihood and working enjoyment are impacted by their efforts and contributions!

3. Appreciation – People cannot be fulfilled in their work if they are not known, or if they feel like they’re just a number, an anonymous entity, a “generic” team member. Take time out to truly get to know your employees or project team members. Show a genuine desire to know the person within—their hopes, aspirations, fears, and background—and acknowledge the contribution they are making to the team.

Remember, success is a journey, not a destination. At the end of your journey, would you like to be remembered as a manager who delivered results, climbed the ranks, and worked long and hard? Or as someone who helped shape lives and make a difference in someone else’s journey?

As managers, you hold in your hand the choice to be remembered as a leader through whose efforts the organisation prospered and became a far better place to work in. In these times of strife and challenges, kindness is a triumph of the human spirit.

Let’s take this journey together. Now is the time to be the very best we can be!

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Andrew Davey

Andrew is a Master Trainer and Executive Coach known for helping organisations shift from transactional leadership to emotionally intelligent cultures. A Tony Robbins Mastery graduate, Certified Life Coach, and MBA holder, he empowers leaders to unlock clarity, resilience, and purpose.

Dominic Siow

Co-founder and EQ Alchemist at EQ Strategist, Dom has inspired leaders and transformed cultures across 260+ organisations in 10 countries. He is the author of the Amazon best-seller *What’s GREAT About This?* and host of the *Inspiring Leadership* podcast.

Sue Siow

Co-founder and Director of EQ Strategist, Sue is known for her calm presence, strategic clarity, and deep empathy. With a background in information systems and advanced leadership training, she has supported leadership journeys for global clients across Asia-Pacific.

Caroline Crosbie

Caroline is a sought-after trainer and psychologist based in Perth, delivering experiential leadership and wellbeing programs. With expertise in resilience, work-life integration, and communication, she helps leaders sustain performance while leading with care, clarity, and balance.

Vivien Ong

Vivien is a seasoned facilitator and coach with 20+ years of corporate leadership experience. She specialises in mindful leadership, communication, and team dynamics, creating vibrant, high-trust learning environments where individuals step into leadership with clarity and voice.

Dale White

Dale is a high-impact leadership and performance coach with 19+ years of experience across government, corporate, and education. Known for his energy and practical insight, he helps leaders align strengths with strategy to drive sustainable, high-performance outcomes.

Vivien Ong

Vivien Ong is a seasoned leadership facilitator, coach, and trainer known for helping professionals grow into self-aware, courageous and impactful leaders. With over 20 years of corporate experience in sectors such as banking, telecommunications, BPO, and media,

Vivien brings a strategic yet deeply human lens to leadership development. At EQ Strategist, she facilitates programmes in mindful leadership, communication, psychological safety and team dynamics. Celebrated for her vibrant facilitation style, she combines energy, empathy, and practical insight to spark meaningful dialogue where learning and growth happen. She also mentors youth through a social enterprise and serves in the leadership team at the

Contact Centre Association of Singapore, where she advocates for better leadership and service standards. Her work is rooted in the belief that better leadership builds a better world. Through storytelling, behavioural tools, and reflective practice, she helps individuals step into leadership with presence, clarity, and voice. Vivien’s clients value her ability to create high-trust environments where people feel seen, heard, and empowered to lead from within.

Caroline Crosbie

Caroline is a sought-after trainer and psychologist who brings warmth, depth, and structure to leadership and wellbeing programmes. At EQ Strategist, she delivers experiential learning focused on resilience, work-life integration, and effective communication. Her academic background includes a Master of Clinical Psychology and certifications in Extended DISC, NLP, and EFT. Caroline’s clients appreciate her thoughtful approach to coaching and her ability to simplify complex psychological principles into actionable steps. With professional experience in five countries, she brings a culturally attuned perspective to her facilitation. Her goal is to help individuals and teams sustain performance without burning out—leading with insight, care, and clarity.

Dale White

“Real transformation doesn’t come from more information—it comes from aligned action.”

Dale White is a high-impact, outcome-focused leadership and performance coach, known for his energy, strategy and ability to drive real change. With 19+ years of experience helping professionals perform at their highest potential & a background in business, behavioural psychology, and high-performance coaching, Dale supports leaders to build clarity, confidence, and resilience in both work and life. At EQ Strategist, Dale facilitates training & coaching that blend behavioural insight, personal mastery, and practical implementation. His sessions are known for being dynamic, personalised, and results-focused – ensuring participants take real-world action that sticks. Dale holds degrees in Business and Exercise Science, and certifications in NLP, PCM, and Robbins Leadership Mastery. Whether supporting government departments, corporate leaders, guiding frontline teams or values-driven founders, Dale’s mission is to help people cut through theory and lead with purpose.

Jack Rankin

Jack Rankin is a high-impact trainer, executive coach, and culture catalyst with over 1,500 workshops delivered globally. His client portfolio includes leading names across government, finance, insurance, construction, and retail. At EQ Strategist, Jack helps organisations strengthen leadership capability, stakeholder alignment, and communication excellence. He is known for making learning engaging and actionable—tailoring each session to drive meaningful outcomes. His past clients include Singapore Airlines, Rio Tinto, Visa Westfield, Nike, Schneider Electric, and City of Parramatta Council. Jack is a Tony Robbins Leadership Mastery graduate and serves on the Synergistic Results Leadership team. Through each programme, he inspires individuals to elevate how they speak, lead, and influence.

Sue Siow

With a heart for people and a sharp strategic lens, Sue Siow co-founded EQ Strategist to help individuals and organisations flourish from the inside out. As Operations Director, she ensures the seamless delivery of high-impact programs while supporting clients with insight, empathy, and practical wisdom.

In addition to leading operations and client experience, Sue is also a skilled Facilitator and Participant Coach—contributing to larger workshops through 1-on-1 coaching, small group facilitation, and experiential team-building segments. Her calm, grounding presence invites reflection, trust, and personal growth.

With a background in Information Systems and advanced training from Tony Robbins’ Mastery University, Sue has supported programs across Singapore, Australia, Malaysia, China, and Indonesia for clients including Sembcorp, Esker, DBS Bank, Changi Airport Group, FedEx, Yokogawa, and AirAsia.

Dominic Siow

“Be the light or the mirror that reflects it.”

These words define Dominic Siow’s approach to life and leadership. As a globally recognised leadership facilitator, keynote speaker, coach, and co-founder of EQ Strategist, Dom is known for helping people reconnect with their purpose, lead with heart, and create cultures where everyone can thrive.

Drawing on senior leadership experience from IBM and Grapevine Technologies, he has spent the past two decades empowering over 260 organisations across 10 countries—from multinational corporations to public sector agencies and values-driven startups.

Dom’s facilitation style is equal parts insight, empathy, and inspiration. Whether leading a leadership retreat, designing a culture transformation program, or coaching executives through complexity, he helps people become not just better leaders, but better human beings.

He is the author of the Amazon bestselling book What’s GREAT About This?—a guide to building resilience through disruption—and the host of the Inspiring Leadership Podcast, where he shares real stories of growth and grit.

For Dom, leadership is not about titles. It’s about helping others find their light—and reflecting it back so they can shine.

Andrew Davey

At EQ Strategist, Andrew Davey is known for helping organisations move from transactional leadership to purposeful, emotionally intelligent cultures. As a master trainer and trusted coach, he brings a rare blend of business insight, coaching expertise, and facilitation mastery. Andrew’s clients span industries from logistics and software to government and education. He is a Tony Robbins Mastery University graduate, a Certified Life Coach, NLP Master Practitioner, and MBA holder. His mission is to empower leaders to unlock clarity, strengthen resilience, and lead inspired teams that drive results. Andrew delivers programs that are practical, energising, and deeply human—enabling sustained transformation at both the individual and organisational level.