Managing Out with Grace

Managing out with Grace

Loved this podcast by Andy Stanley titled “One for All” -> http://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/andy-stanley-leadership-podcast/id290055666.

As a change agent, I’ve learned that one of the most difficult situations managers get to deal with is the downsizing, rightsizing or redeployment of staff. Whether such changes are due to the economy or poor performance, these skills are essential for leaders to ensure their organisation remains healthy. This applies to both profit and not-for-profit organisations.

Exceptional leaders recognise that making and carrying out such decisions, whilst never easy, is often critical for the ongoing growth and vitality for organisations. Whilst such changes are inevitable, the manner in which the change is implemented can retain, grow or diminish the integrity of your organisation. With such situations, the axiom “it’s not about what happens, it’s what you do with what happens that counts” is worth remembering.

When carrying out such changes, here some useful perspectives drawn from Stanley’s podcast and my personal experience that I hope will empower you to manage such situations with greater peace of mind, confidence and compassion.

Some people are starters whilst others who are finishers by nature. In order to evolve, we often need to think, feel and act differently, at each stage of an organisation’s growth. Starters can stifle the growth of an organisation that requires finishers at a particular juncture of its growth. Whilst my experience as a coach informs me that everyone is ultimately adaptable if he or she finds enough reasons to do so, it is generally difficult, possibly unfair and from a practical standpoint, could take too long for a “leopard to change its spots”

You are freeing the person’s future

Often, when a person is performing poorly in a role despite every attempt to empower and support him or her, a common reason is poor job fit and a subsequent lack of passion and commitment. In such situations, letting the person move on frees him or her up to do what they really ought to be doing, moving on to roles that are more suited to their passions and interests. I have had colleagues who, post-retrenchment, actually went on to bigger and better things – starting that restaurant they always dreamed of, or that consultancy, boutique, etc.

Carrying this out never easy, and that’s the way it ought to be

Compassion is an incredibly important trait to have and that means dealing with such situations with tremendous sensitivity. As much as possible, every opportunity to rehabilitate and help grow the individual should be expended. Consider always the most honouring thing you can do for the individual. I love this question posed by Stanley – “if this person were to choose to resign, would you be secretly relieved?” If your answer to this is the affirmative, this is a good sign letting the person move on is the honourable thing to do. Imagine being in the shoes of the individual with a boss who secretly wishes he or she would leave.

Communicate openly and clearly

You want them and those who stay to look back and say “they handled that as honourably and as well as they possibly could have”. Which means as soon as you know, you owe it to them to let them know as soon as possible and as openly and honestly as you can.

Get the right people on the bus

Jim Collins, in his book “Good to Great” tells us that one of the characteristics of the exceptional organisations that made the transition from good to great was their perspective on hiring staff. Rather than focusing solely on competence, they looked for people who met four stringent criteria:

  • Character – attributes like integrity, ability to deal with adversity, being a team player.
  • Competence – the necessary skills and experience.
  • Chemistry – the ability to gel cohesively and importantly bring an added dimension of personality that was lacking into the organisation.
  • Culture – strong alignment of personal values with that of the organisation.
 

The average companies on the other hand tend to place a myopic focus on competence alone when hiring, ignoring the other key attributes.

Significantly, the Good to Great companies were proactive in bringing the right people on the bus even if they did not have an opening.

By bringing such “right” people on the bus, it simply means that such staff will tend to have greater intrinsic motivation to create results and adapt more easily with changes in the organisation.

It’s not about the firing, it’s about how you handle the firing

Keep in mind you are ending a professional and not necessarily the personal relationship. Quite apart from serving the many who stay, be authentic about your care and compassion for the individual who moves on. Do not bad-mouth them in their absence and if possible, follow up after they have left to see if you can offer them assistance. This is a powerful message also to your team who stay.

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Wishing you continued success and fulfilment,

Dominic Siow

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Andrew Davey

Andrew is a Master Trainer and Executive Coach known for helping organisations shift from transactional leadership to emotionally intelligent cultures. A Tony Robbins Mastery graduate, Certified Life Coach, and MBA holder, he empowers leaders to unlock clarity, resilience, and purpose.

Dominic Siow

Co-founder and EQ Alchemist at EQ Strategist, Dom has inspired leaders and transformed cultures across 260+ organisations in 10 countries. He is the author of the Amazon best-seller *What’s GREAT About This?* and host of the *Inspiring Leadership* podcast.

Sue Siow

Co-founder and Director of EQ Strategist, Sue is known for her calm presence, strategic clarity, and deep empathy. With a background in information systems and advanced leadership training, she has supported leadership journeys for global clients across Asia-Pacific.

Caroline Crosbie

Caroline is a sought-after trainer and psychologist based in Perth, delivering experiential leadership and wellbeing programs. With expertise in resilience, work-life integration, and communication, she helps leaders sustain performance while leading with care, clarity, and balance.

Vivien Ong

Vivien is a seasoned facilitator and coach with 20+ years of corporate leadership experience. She specialises in mindful leadership, communication, and team dynamics, creating vibrant, high-trust learning environments where individuals step into leadership with clarity and voice.

Dale White

Dale is a high-impact leadership and performance coach with 19+ years of experience across government, corporate, and education. Known for his energy and practical insight, he helps leaders align strengths with strategy to drive sustainable, high-performance outcomes.

Vivien Ong

Vivien Ong is a seasoned leadership facilitator, coach, and trainer known for helping professionals grow into self-aware, courageous and impactful leaders. With over 20 years of corporate experience in sectors such as banking, telecommunications, BPO, and media,

Vivien brings a strategic yet deeply human lens to leadership development. At EQ Strategist, she facilitates programmes in mindful leadership, communication, psychological safety and team dynamics. Celebrated for her vibrant facilitation style, she combines energy, empathy, and practical insight to spark meaningful dialogue where learning and growth happen. She also mentors youth through a social enterprise and serves in the leadership team at the

Contact Centre Association of Singapore, where she advocates for better leadership and service standards. Her work is rooted in the belief that better leadership builds a better world. Through storytelling, behavioural tools, and reflective practice, she helps individuals step into leadership with presence, clarity, and voice. Vivien’s clients value her ability to create high-trust environments where people feel seen, heard, and empowered to lead from within.

Caroline Crosbie

Caroline is a sought-after trainer and psychologist who brings warmth, depth, and structure to leadership and wellbeing programmes. At EQ Strategist, she delivers experiential learning focused on resilience, work-life integration, and effective communication. Her academic background includes a Master of Clinical Psychology and certifications in Extended DISC, NLP, and EFT. Caroline’s clients appreciate her thoughtful approach to coaching and her ability to simplify complex psychological principles into actionable steps. With professional experience in five countries, she brings a culturally attuned perspective to her facilitation. Her goal is to help individuals and teams sustain performance without burning out—leading with insight, care, and clarity.

Dale White

“Real transformation doesn’t come from more information—it comes from aligned action.”

Dale White is a high-impact, outcome-focused leadership and performance coach, known for his energy, strategy and ability to drive real change. With 19+ years of experience helping professionals perform at their highest potential & a background in business, behavioural psychology, and high-performance coaching, Dale supports leaders to build clarity, confidence, and resilience in both work and life. At EQ Strategist, Dale facilitates training & coaching that blend behavioural insight, personal mastery, and practical implementation. His sessions are known for being dynamic, personalised, and results-focused – ensuring participants take real-world action that sticks. Dale holds degrees in Business and Exercise Science, and certifications in NLP, PCM, and Robbins Leadership Mastery. Whether supporting government departments, corporate leaders, guiding frontline teams or values-driven founders, Dale’s mission is to help people cut through theory and lead with purpose.

Jack Rankin

Jack Rankin is a high-impact trainer, executive coach, and culture catalyst with over 1,500 workshops delivered globally. His client portfolio includes leading names across government, finance, insurance, construction, and retail. At EQ Strategist, Jack helps organisations strengthen leadership capability, stakeholder alignment, and communication excellence. He is known for making learning engaging and actionable—tailoring each session to drive meaningful outcomes. His past clients include Singapore Airlines, Rio Tinto, Visa Westfield, Nike, Schneider Electric, and City of Parramatta Council. Jack is a Tony Robbins Leadership Mastery graduate and serves on the Synergistic Results Leadership team. Through each programme, he inspires individuals to elevate how they speak, lead, and influence.

Sue Siow

With a heart for people and a sharp strategic lens, Sue Siow co-founded EQ Strategist to help individuals and organisations flourish from the inside out. As Operations Director, she ensures the seamless delivery of high-impact programs while supporting clients with insight, empathy, and practical wisdom.

In addition to leading operations and client experience, Sue is also a skilled Facilitator and Participant Coach—contributing to larger workshops through 1-on-1 coaching, small group facilitation, and experiential team-building segments. Her calm, grounding presence invites reflection, trust, and personal growth.

With a background in Information Systems and advanced training from Tony Robbins’ Mastery University, Sue has supported programs across Singapore, Australia, Malaysia, China, and Indonesia for clients including Sembcorp, Esker, DBS Bank, Changi Airport Group, FedEx, Yokogawa, and AirAsia.

Dominic Siow

“Be the light or the mirror that reflects it.”

These words define Dominic Siow’s approach to life and leadership. As a globally recognised leadership facilitator, keynote speaker, coach, and co-founder of EQ Strategist, Dom is known for helping people reconnect with their purpose, lead with heart, and create cultures where everyone can thrive.

Drawing on senior leadership experience from IBM and Grapevine Technologies, he has spent the past two decades empowering over 260 organisations across 10 countries—from multinational corporations to public sector agencies and values-driven startups.

Dom’s facilitation style is equal parts insight, empathy, and inspiration. Whether leading a leadership retreat, designing a culture transformation program, or coaching executives through complexity, he helps people become not just better leaders, but better human beings.

He is the author of the Amazon bestselling book What’s GREAT About This?—a guide to building resilience through disruption—and the host of the Inspiring Leadership Podcast, where he shares real stories of growth and grit.

For Dom, leadership is not about titles. It’s about helping others find their light—and reflecting it back so they can shine.

Andrew Davey

At EQ Strategist, Andrew Davey is known for helping organisations move from transactional leadership to purposeful, emotionally intelligent cultures. As a master trainer and trusted coach, he brings a rare blend of business insight, coaching expertise, and facilitation mastery. Andrew’s clients span industries from logistics and software to government and education. He is a Tony Robbins Mastery University graduate, a Certified Life Coach, NLP Master Practitioner, and MBA holder. His mission is to empower leaders to unlock clarity, strengthen resilience, and lead inspired teams that drive results. Andrew delivers programs that are practical, energising, and deeply human—enabling sustained transformation at both the individual and organisational level.